Category Archives: Mind and believes

Illusion Or Uniqueness?

Posted on January 25, 2012 by

Everybody knows that models are actually a lot thinner than what you’d call healthy. Everybody knows, that the photos you see in magazines and ads are pimped with photoshop. Everybody knows, that you should love your own body and not try to crawl behind an ideal that’s simply an illusion.

And yet, if I’d ask you whether you’d like to change something about your body, and how you’d like to look, I’m pretty sure, that you’d want to have a flat belly, a small and tight butt, long and skinny legs, round breasts that are not too small and not too big, and of course a beautiful face (and beautiful depends on what ideal you hunger for – big eyes, small eyes, full lips, or rather thin lips).

It’s strange, isn’t it? I mean, we’re all grown-ups, we all know it better, but we just can’t help it. We fall for the illusion of an ideal, that’s not so ideal at all.

I catch myself with thoughts like that. What you don’t see on the pictures is that I actually have a very impressive butt, very round thighs and a belly that’s a bit smashed after giving birth to my daughter.

I can’t help thinking what I should not think. But I can replace my picture of an ideal body with another one. I can search for another role model.

Because I don’t really want to look like I’m starving, and I don’t really want to be a copy of a woman that was digitally changed.

I want to be me. I want to be strong. I want to be unique. I want to be sensual. I want to be healthy. I want to be fit.

I can only be who I really want to be if I stop going after an illusion and start creating my own reality. A reality that has never been there before (and by the way, gossiping about skinny and/or copying people is a sure sign that you are still buying into this nonsense).

What’s the risk? The risk is that maybe not everybody thinks I’m beautiful – which will happen anyway. The risk is that I will walk into the unknown – which will always happen when you decide to go for something new. The risk is that I will fall flat from time to time – and that, too, will happen anyway.

What do you consider beautiful? I mean, really beautiful? And have you ever thought about how you really want to look and feel? I mean, honestly? I would love to know that!

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How to set an intention

Posted on January 19, 2012 by

I remember hearing the first time about ‘setting an intention’. It was supposed to have a major impact on what I would experience, how I would experience it, and what would happen anyway.

And it’s true: Setting an intention has a huge impact. If it’s done from the heart.

Because you see, I immediately used my mind to control destiny. Like: “This is going to happen that way.” Or “I will feel and experience this and that.” Of course it didn’t work that way. And if I had payed attention to my body, I would have known all along (in fact I knew, but I believed it had to work out that way and that’s that).

As soon as you set an intention from your mind, that does not serve your soul, you feel your body block. If you ignore that, your second clue is that it takes a lot of effort and energy to hold you on track, and to stay focused on your intention. Your third clue is that things aren’t working out the way they should, and you get angry and frustrated. It’s time to think about your initial intention. The earlier, the better.

On the other hand, if you set the right intention, you will instantly feel free. A rush of energy is going through you. Things work out smoothly. Like magic.

So why not always set the right kind of intention? What’s so hard about knowing what is best for you?

Because your mind is caught in a believe system that is not allowing you relax and tune in to what your heart knows (the place your right intention is coming from).

For example, it believes that it’s impossible. That you don’t have enough money. That you’re not good enough. That terrible things will happen. That you have to do A first and then B.

Or you are caught in a ‘negative’ emotional state that does not allow you to relax and see things clearly, like being angry, frustrated or exhausted (and of course those also boil down to certain believes you hold).

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Why are you doing the things you do?

Posted on September 9, 2011 by

Why are you working? What do you believe, is really important? What’s the purpose of your life?

Do you believe that life and success means that you go to a steady job, earn lots of money and then go home to your family and spent a couple of hours with them?

Is that it?

Is that really it?

Why are you going to work? Because you want to earn money? Why are you an entrepreneur? Because people say you can earn lots of money?

Really? Are you doing all of this because you want to earn money?

Or is there something else? Are you doing it, because you believe in what you do? Because you want to contribute something to the world? Because you have lots to give? Because you see that there are so many people out there who need just what you happen to be able to offer?

You see, that’s a totally different standpoint from which you can run your business (or do a job for someone elses business). You can do it for the money. But then you are in for a real roller-coster, because you can only be happy if you actually earning money. Your happiness depends on money. Which you have or you don’t. Your are in for an eternal chase. You are in for eternal worries – because even if you earn money, even lots of it – you might lose it!

Or can do it because the job itself fulfills you. Because that way, you can express who you are. Because that way, you can develop and grow. Now you are in for real happiness. Because you are not depended on the outer conditions. You are not dependent on whether you earn money or not. Whether you are successful or not. Whether you reach a certain status or not.

The great thing is: All of these things will probably come as a byproduct. 

When you do your job from the second standpoint, you have more energy, deliver better work (easily), and attract more clients.

It’s that easy.

So, if you are once again in that bad mood, and mourn about how you are not earning enough money, ask yourself: What am I doing this for? 

And if I do it because I love my job, is my behavior expressing this? Or are there some hidden believes that show up (like, why would you then be mourning, if you just do it because you love your job)? What is this bad mood telling you? Time to explore…

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Change is not a problem

Posted on September 7, 2011 by

Everything seems to go down at the moment. It has been like that for a longer time, but now it gains on severity.

Financial crisis. Health crisis. Environmental crisis. Humanitarian crisis. Political crisis. Education crisis.

Everything is falling apart. Everything is changing. Not just in one country. In most countries on this earth.

But you know what? That’s not a problem. You heard right. Change is not a problem.

What is a problem is when we hold on to the old forms. When we refuse to go with the change but decide to go against the change. When we try to hold everything together.

Look at the schools: In Germany, schools have produced one reform after the other, desperately trying to somehow fix the problems we more and more encounter (bored children, increased violence, integration of immigrants, dropouts, ADHD…). They try to fix it by trying to force the children to somehow learn more, concentrate more, deal with even more pressure (and, on the other hand, to integrate those that just won’t obey). They hold on to the believe that the current form of education is the only form that works (which doesn’t). And they are holding on to the belief that children don’t like to learn (which is not true. They just don’t like to learn what we tell them they have to learn now).

Look at the politicians: They somehow try to fix the problems by exercising more and more control and blaming each other for the things that don’t work (and those are many…). They are holding on to the belief that the old forms are the best and they somehow have to make them work. Instead of trying to find new ways.

Those were just two general examples. Look at your own life. What is not working? What are you trying to hold on to? What would happen if you’d just let go for a moment? 

Yes, it might mean chaos for some time. But out of that chaos, your new life, your new self is born.

You will find new ways. But you have to let go of the old ones, first!

Have you ever made the experience, that you dared to let go of your old life (or part of it) and start over new? Write a comment below!

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